How to Shed Fat daily?


Hello everyone! This is my actual result from losing weight. I was 126 pounds 2 months ago and now, I am 110 pounds.

I did not exercise daily. My secret is drinking a detox tea. I drink it 3 to 4 times daily. A detox tea that was made in a fined raw ginger tea. I mixed it with raw honey and an apple cider vinegar.


I’m a healthy eater too, which it made me more leaner and skinnier. I’ve lost a tons of fat and even muscle as well.

Now, I am trying to gain my weight back (gain muscle). I have a crazy schedule for school so I tried to have time management to get back into working out and adding more rice or bread in my meals.

I still drink detox tea but is not 3 to 4 times daily instead one or twice daily. I drink detox tea because it helps to release the toxic waste in our body systems. It helps you sleep better, have a good digestion, it prevent acne and other healthy benefits. Our body responds differently. It’s okay to experiment and explore your diet that best fit you’re result.

My best advice is.. You can eat whatever you want. It’s how you control yourself and what you put inside your body. You are the reflection of yourself. So, make it a good one.

I hope this helps!🙂

8 Beautiful Of Self- Discovery

Self- discovery is discovering your own individuality. The act or process of achieving self- knowledge. The act or process of learning new experiences in life on a daily basis.

Here’s my 8 inspirational quotes that will gain you’re self-discoveries:

1. “The secret of concentration is the secret of self-discovery. You reach inside yourself to discover your personal resources, and what it takes to match them to the challenge.”

– Arnold Palmer


2. “After all these years, I am still involved in the process of self-discovery. It’s better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life.”

– Sophia Loren


3. “You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one.”

– James A. Froude


4. “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”

― Thomas Merton


5. “Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person.”

― Gerard Way


6. “Painting is self-discovery. Every good artist paints what he/she is.”

– Jackson Pollock


7. “Outside, the ocean was crashing, waves hitting sand, then pulling back to sea. I thought of everything being washed away, again and again. We make such messes in this life, both accidentally and on purpose. But wiping the surface clean doesn’t really make anything neater. It just masks what is below. It’s only when you really dig down deep, go underground, that you can see who you really are.”

― Sarah Dessen


8. “It’s daring to be curious about the unknown, to dream big dreams, to live outside prescribed boxes, to take risks, and above all, daring to investigate the way we live until we discover the deepest treasured purpose of why we are here.”

― Luci Swindoll

I hope this inspirational messages will give you an insights and motivations to help you and others. Until my next blog post! I hope everyone is having a lovely day🙂

Allowing Ourselves To Truly Experienced Our Emotions

Allowing ourselves to truly experience our emotions is a beautiful thing and is the first step towards becoming a well-rounded and emotionally balanced person.

As simple as it sounds, it’s not common practice. Especially with young people. Somewhere along the way, we were told to plaster on plastic smiles while posing next to a mountain for our profile pictures and pretend that everything was always okay. We were told that we should bury ourselves in the “hustle” or self-medicate with sex and booze until our feelings are stifled to the point we think we don’t need to face them. Yes, dealing with ourselves hurts.

Acceptance

Admitting to ourselves that we have trust issues or that we hate being alone is hard. Dealing with a breakup without numbing the pain with rebound hookups can be scary. While I understand that pouring yourself another glass of wine is easier than pouring your feelings into a journal, understand this, being open to embracing your deepest emotions, no matter how raw, is not just a catalyst to emotional growth – it’s a requirement for it.

Yup, Dr. Phil wasn’t lying – you gotta face your demons’ sooner or later. However, throughout my own journey, I’ve gained a few key insights that has made the process a little less shitty to deal with.

Don’t Interrupt the Process

When we’re going through a period of emotional pain, we must allow ourselves time to heal or there won’t be any growth afterward. We tend to overestimate how much we can handle and hinder our own process by going back to the thing that caused the pain in the first place. Let’s keep it real, this is mostly referring to relationships. It’s funny how the very person that made us feel shitty is the same person we can’t resist going back to.

Every time you re-open that scenario, it’s like ripping the bandage off a cut that’s still bleeding. Yes, it will serve as a temporary salve but what it’s really doing is taking us back to square one. This is one of the hardest things to follow but remember – growth can’t happen unless you release the thing you need to grow out of. You can’t properly dissect and reflect on a situation when you’re still in the thick of it.

Vulnerability Isn’t Weak, It’s Beautiful

I repeat, vulnerability doesn’t mean that you’re weak, it means that you are brave as hell. As an introvert and an emotionally guarded person, this concept used to be foreign to me. It was so damn scary to allow people to see what a complete hot mess I am under the cool exterior I tried so hard to project. But as I got older, I realized that being transparent with the people we care about is one of the joys of life that so many of us miss out on. Instead, we try to manipulate and re-adjust ourselves according to who we think others want us to be.

This is wrong for two reasons. A) We’re all deserving of love exactly as we are and B) when we hide the things about ourselves we deem as “undesirable”, we’re building shaky relationships that eventually collapse due to the weak foundations they’re built on. But honestly, who are we trying to kid? The sooner you realize that we’re all a collection of beautifully broken souls doing our best with the cards life dealt us, the easier it becomes to accept and be yourself. Repeat this over and over again, you’re beautiful and worthy of love. God loves you, somebody else loves you and you should love you. Any improvements you’re making to yourself should simply be extrapolating on that ultimate truth.

Growth Has No Expiration

I turned 30 last November 2015. I was living in Orlando, FL and under the impression that I had “arrived” in terms of emotional growth and balance. I had great relationships with my friends and family, I knew what I wanted to do as a career, I felt comfortable in my own skin and had the checklist for my “ideal mate” all figured out. Then I got an opportunity to move to the Philippines and all the “life lessons” I thought I had conquered went to shit. It took me moving to a new city, switching career paths and leaving everything I knew behind to make me realize that growth is a cycle that starts all over at every stage of your life.

Yes, I’d had a great handle on my life in Florida but complacency can trick us into thinking we don’t need to strive to be better. Moving to Philippines made me realize that I had so much more to learn about myself and others. It challenged me mentally, emotionally and physically to the point where I had to reevaluate everything I thought I knew about myself. It wasn’t fun but re-starting the growth cycle has shown me that there’s far more potential within me than I give myself credit for. And even though I will be just as disoriented and clueless at the next stage of my life, it’s okay, because it’s all just part of the process.

But don’t take it from me. Just breathe and allow yourself to embrace your emotions, good or bad. But simply allowing yourself to feel isn’t enough. Dissect it, reflect on it and spend time alone and meditate on it. The most beautiful human relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. And always ask yourself a favor and commit to yourself whether this is good for you or not.😉


“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?”

-John Wooden

You Are Enough Of A Reason To Never Self-Harm Again

People often romanticize self-harm which shouldn’t be acceptable. I’ve been in that battle and I almost didn’t win. I go on blog sites and other social networking sites and find myself in awe when I see that people are making self harm seem like such a cool thing to do. I was at the age of 29 when I started cutting myself. I had no idea that I would ever escalate to that extreme, but it happened and I didn’t know how to stop it for awhile. Life can be a tough road to drive, but you can never give up.

I’m a much healthier person these days, but back then I thought the pain was going to be never-ending. It was a constant “what if” every time I woke up. Wondering if I’d be able to stand still all day, or if I was going to get looked at funny. Self harm is something that can be controlled, but you have to tell yourself and pretty much force yourself to do so. Life is such a blessing and I’ve noticed how blessed I am to be living this life only just recently.

I’m content with my life and I will continue to be content with it for as long as I’m alive because I am here, no where else. I am in this body, living my life, being myself. It’s crazy if you really think about it. We were each made to be put on this Earth for a purpose. A purpose some people are still trying to figure out. It can take days, weeks, months, or even years, but you will find your purpose.

When I found my purpose, I began to realize all of the little things that made me weaker and I decided to push them aside for good and never let them control me again. It saddens me to see young people of all genders and ages hurt themselves for believing that they are no good and have no use in this life. I feel like no matter what you instill in that person’s mind, they will always try to find a way to hurt themselves over and over again. As did I when I was in that predicament, but it wasn’t as easy as 1-2-3.

When I tell you I struggled with myself, I really had no idea what I was going to do in this world. But once I quit my job and left the country, I then began to realize that the problem only last temporary and all the pain that I’ve been through is the only way to make you stronger and a better version of yourself, self-questioning what would happen in the future- was the only thing that was making me feel worse. Sounds crazy, I know. I feel like a little girl made me cringe more and more everyday. I continued to live a life of questions and constant reassurance. I wanted people to reassure me that everything will get better, and some did. Those handful of people were my family members and some close friends. I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for my journey and the conjoined help of conquering it from them.

That was always my number one fear: Not being society’s version of “good enough.” And since I thought I wasn’t good enough, I felt like hurting myself might take away that feeling for the time being. As I’m writing this, I’m kind of rereading what I’m writing and I must sound so vulnerable, but the truth is… I was. This may be eye-opening to some of you and to others I may sound like a complete fool. In all honesty, that complete fool you may think I am when reading this is now the strongest person she never thought she could be because of the journey she’s been through.

Life offers both a great deal of pain and undeniable happiness. You just have to make sure that you aren’t stuck on to one for too long because if you were always happy you wouldn’t know what it feels like to be sad or angry, and if you’re always sad you wouldn’t know what it feels like to be happy. Always trust your instinct and don’t let go of the fact that you’re never too late to follow your dreams. Don’t be scared to move on. Have faith in yourself. Love yourself. You are the writer of your own story. Don’t let what other people think dictate how you live your life. Kick self-harm in the ass and be your own hero because we all have it within us. We are beautiful in our own way. Make yourself an eye-opener to others and an inspirations! 🙂


“The really sexiest thing in the entire world is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap, I promise you. It’s just crap that people try to sell you to make you feel like less. So don’t buy it. Be smart. Be thoughtful. And be generous.”

-April Mae

Your “vibe” is what determines how much love you attract from the world.

Hello everyone!

Sorry for my late blog post. I had been busy with my school works. Anyway, I wanted to share a quick tip on how to look at your love life so you’re not only successful, but you keep things simple…

Whether you are a female or a male. I’ve meet different people in the past 2 months and we basically have this conversation about wanting to start dating again and have their love life be alive again, but everything seems so overwhelming… like there’s so much you need to know just to have love (real, lasting love) in your life.

So, my response is this, and I’m sharing it here with you now:

Society makes relationships out to be a big, long, complicated thing.

If you’re approaching things right, love is the easiest thing in the world. If you’re approaching things wrong, love is impossible.

The problem for most people is that they make love a GOAL, when really, love is best viewed as a bi-product of having the right attitude towards life.

That “attitude” or outlook is that you’re already happy and whole.

You don’t need a man or relationship or love to “make you” happy.

You live your life in a happy way. You are full of happiness and you bring happiness INTO everything you’re a part of.

Instead of trying to get things and extract happiness from them, you “live happy” and you allow your happiness to flow out into life.

I realize that might sound a bit airy fairy, so I’ll put it another way . . .

Your vibe is what determines how much love you attract from the world.

Your vibe is determined by your mood. So when you make being in a good, inspired, happy mood your top priority in life, your vibe naturally becomes radiant and irresistibly attractive to everyone around you.

You will naturally and effortlessly attract love from all angles in your life.

And as a bonus, you’ll avoid a huge trap that many women fall into: since you are already happy and whole, you don’t go seeking out a man to “give you” love or a relationship.

Rather, you are open to love… and when you spend time with anyone, your focus is on enjoying your time with them because, after all, you’re not trying to get anything. You’re already happy and whole!

If you re-read this comment every day and take a minute or two to contemplate it, I think it will massively help bring about the kind of love life you want.

You don’t need one million tips and tricks. You just need to realize that love starts from within and flows out. And how do you know you are filled with love from within?

You feel good inside: happy, whole and at peace.

Hope this helps,

Much love🙂


“The wide world is all about you: You can fence yourselves in, but you cannot forever fence it out”. -J. R. R. Tolkien

Are you a Chooser or a Chaser?

I’m going to reveal a simple concept that determines whether you get the love you want… or end up settling for something you don’t want. A lot of people like to throw around terms like “be the prize” and “neediness” and a bunch of other stuff…

Honestly, I don’t like most of the terms out there … but I use them and talk about them because those are the terms being used in general in the “relationship advice” sphere… and I’d rather enter the discussion and then give people helpful ways to untangle the mess…

The reason I say this… Is because, I’ve been there and done that! In regard to “being the prize,” here’s what you need to know…

A lot of women fixate on what a guy isn’t doing, isn’t saying, etc. Then they try to figure out a way to force the situation that they want to happen… they read articles, try different schemes to make him do whatever they want him to do, probe him, analyze him, etc.

This is trying to shove a square peg through a round hole … this is chasing him… this is the opposite of being the prize. Being the prize simply means that instead of chasing him and trying to get him to do something or be a certain way, you focus on your own mood and self-improvement…

Your mood is incredibly important to protect… women who are in a great mood and feel good internally will naturally appear very attractive to the outside world. Look around and you’ll observe this to be true. Your mood is what will invoke your inner beauty… your vibe… and it will also determine how easily you’ll form strong, lasting connections with others. Then of course there’s your self-improvement. Learning to be the best “you” that you can be is great… it gives you a feeling that life is getting better and better every day. It gives you inspiration and hope.

Part of being the best you that you can be is doing what you can to improve your looks and body as much as is possible for you. I’m not talking about hitting some crazy Hollywood beauty standard. I’m talking about making your physical appearance something that you value and enhance as much as you can. Those are the major things to focus on… if you’re someone people want to be around, your level of desirability is going to be high… you’ll be in demand… and when you’re in demand, you have choice… when you have choice, naturally you’ll choose to spend time with the people you enjoy being with the most. You simply won’t have time for everyone who wants your attention… you are in demand, so you are the chooser.

More importantly, when you’re in demand, you won’t choose to spend your time on someone who isn’t willing to put in the effort or treat you the way you want to be treated.
All in all, being the prize isn’t so much about asserting how great you are as it is about simply not chasing after people who don’t want to put in the effort.

Being the prize simply means that you are actively in the role of being the “chooser,” not the “chaser.” This doesn’t mean the guy can’t also be a “chooser.” In fact, in a best-case scenario, you are both choosing each other.

As I was saying earlier, many people make the mistake of desperately clinging to and fixating upon a person who isn’t giving them the responses they want… so they try to force things to work. That’s being a “chaser.”

Being a “chooser” means that you don’t stop dating until you actually find the guy who treats you the way you want to be treated and with whom you have the relationship that you actually want. I can’t stress that enough: You don’t stop dating until you actually have what you want.

Hope that helps,🙂


“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”

-Diana, Princess of Wales

The 3 Things Every Man Needs To Be Happy…

 

I’m going to share a secret about how to understand men so well that you might have people thinking you have a psychic understanding of men…

And you’ve read enough of my writing to know that I’m not hype-y and not one to exaggerate… I’m telling you, this is an understanding about men that is super powerful and SIMPLE.

To be honest, women massively over- complicate men typically. It blows my mind…

Women think that men are running around speaking this “secret language” that needs to be decoded. They think a man’s actions are painted by Andy Warhol or something…

The truth is… men are SIMPLE…

SIMPLE… SIMPLE creatures.

All of the perceived complications are there because people have a terrible ability to separate emotions from reality.

They equate “feeling something” to “meaning something”… and unfortunately whatever they interpret it “means” is anyone’s guess.

And my favorite part: People will get mad at the other person for not responding in the way that they “should” be, based on their personal interpretation of reality and emotions…

Anyway, hope my “waxing philosophical” didn’t lose you…

Here’s the simple bottom line:

A man’s mood, well-being and happiness revolve around three things:

1) Sex

Generation now a days.. Men’s love pleasure all the time. Most men can’t live without sex for weeks and even days. It’s in there testosterone! It’s very rare to meet someone who doesn’t need sex, “someone who is a stick to one type of a person”.

2) Food/comfort

Men’s heart is in his belly. Most men like women who can actually cook. Remember, most men are usually a “mamas boy”.

3) Winning

Men likes attention. Feeling that “he is the man”, taking in control and making the best out of everything.

That’s it. No more complicated than that.

If a man doesn’t constantly have those three areas met daily, he’s cranky and feels dissatisfied. If he does… all is right in the world.

I’m telling you, it really is that simple.

And I hope that you take that lesson deep inside and lodge it into your brain because people often mistake simple as being insignificant and complex as being important.

Typically it’s actually the opposite.

Hope this gives you an idea.


“A healthy attitude is contagious but don’t wait to catch it from others. Be a carrier.”

-Tom Stoppard

Confessions about a Dating Disaster

I’m gonna get very, very personal today. I’ve been writing and pondering for this for a while now. You’ve heard about some of my past mistakes and how I healed. You know my take on relationships and what it takes to have a successful relationship. It’s one thing to recall a time from the past, it’s another to take you to that place. What I mean is sometimes when I describe the way I used to be with men, it doesn’t feel like I’m talking about myself. It feels like I’m describing someone I used to know, or maybe a scene from a movie. It’s weird to think that this was my life, and that I really did used to be so clueless, and at time, pathetic when it came to love. I was organizing my documents in the computer the other day and I came across an old stories from my mid-20’s years. I was very on and off with my journals. I usually didn’t write about things until they came to a breaking point. I stumbled upon one entry, written when I was 28, and I almost felt like I was right back in that place. I also had this curious desire to break through the pages and give my former self a good old talking to! Instead of dishing out advice in this blog, I want to do something different and share that diary excerpt. I’m going to hold back on commenting on certain areas (I’ll just boldface the pieces you should pay attention to!). I want you to read it and see if you find yourself in there. Maybe this resonates with who you used to be.

Or maybe it speaks to who you are now. See if you can spot my faulty lines of thinking and if you can put that into the context of my failed relationships.

Alright, here it is.

Date: March 18, 2013.

I’m confused again. Here’s what I know. I know the world considers me to be relatively “attractive.” I know people consider my body a “good one.” I know I’m fun. I know I talk a lot. But I don’t know why these thoughts keep fluctuating in my mind. Why is it I turn into a needy nutcase whenever I begin even the slightest relationship with a guy? Why is it I can honestly believe I’m a kick ass girl with a great personality to thinking I’m just an annoying pain in the ass the next? Why do I need reassurance every minute of the damn day? I hate being so needy. I hate being so utterly dependent upon what other people think of me. Why am I obsessed with being the shining light in everyone’s life? Why do I need every guy I meet to fall hopelessly in love with me even when the feelings aren’t reciprocated? I’m happy and so blessed and fortunate. I just know from experience that I tend to screw up almost all my relationships. I’m past the age of these stupid games. I mean, is it OK to casually hook up with guys? How far can you go? When is it slutty? How do you turn a hook up into a real relationship? Is this person just a hookup, or is this how a relationship starts? I just feel scattered. Life decisions are impossible to make. Part of me wants to think I should always be myself and people can take it or leave it. While the other part thinks me being “myself” is causing me more harm than good. When and why and under what circumstances should you compromise yourself?

Should I because a lot of guys think I’m plain crazy? Is it true? I also need to stop relying so heavily on others to establish my sense of self. But if not for other people and perspectives, how can one ever come to terms with one’s identity? Isn’t who I am based largely on how others view me? How can we accurately and objectively define ourselves? I don’t think that’s possible. Any concept of who we are is formed as a result of continuous affirmations.

Maybe the loophole to all this would be to be myself and not care about the outside. People will hate you. It isn’t possible to be loved by everyone. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has a different opinion. Life can’t revolve around one person. I just need to learn how to take it slow, be in control, and not get so carried away with guys. Let’s see if I can actually take my own advice for a change.

Hope you enjoyed!  :)


“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There is no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

-Bruce Lee

Why Does The Woman Have to Change to Make a Relationship Work?

 

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I’m going to address one of the biggest issues women have when it comes to relationships: why does the woman have to change in order for the relationship to improve?

Fortunately, my male friends and I don’t receive much criticism for our advice, even though it can sometimes be tough to swallow. And we really appreciate how open and receptive you are to hearing us out. However, the one issue that comes up time and time again is why the woman has to change.

A lot of readers have said things along the lines of:

“Why can’t he just accept me as I am? Why do I have to change?”

“Why don’t you guys tell this stuff to men?”

“Why do I need to change anything? He should be the one to change!”

“It’s not fair, he acts like a jerk and I have to be the one to work on myself?” The easiest answer to these questions is the reason you have to change is because you are the only person you have complete control over. You can try forcing your man to change, but I guarantee it won’t work and instead you will most likely find yourself alone.

The truth is, the way you act has a major impact over the way the other person responds. As a result, learning how to modify your behavior can lead to a much better, much happier, much more fulfilling relationship… and isn’t that the ultimate goal here? Not to place blame, but we do need to take responsibility for what we bring into our interactions, this applies to romantic relationships as well as friendships and interactions with our family.

I write a lot about changing your mindset — which, in turn, changes your behavior — because these things can ultimately change your life and your relationships for the better… as long as you can see the bigger picture without getting frustrated by the effort you will need to exert. The way you think doesn’t only affect you and your self-esteem, it can have a big impact on the people around you. Just look at your own life for proof. When you’re in a good place, things typically will go your way.

When you are in a bad place, things often go from bad to worse– you get in arguments with your friends, you’re distracted at school or work and miss important deadlines, you yell at your boyfriend for something stupid, you stub your toe on the very heavy door.

When we have complaints, we usually don’t realize how we might be causing those problems. It starts by looking deep within yourself and figuring out what place you’re coming from. When you come from a place of ego/insecurity/fear, it can cause the other person to feel attacked and when any person feels attacked they will immediately go on the defensive.

For instance, if you whine to your boyfriend that he’s never there for you or that he is acting cold or distant, he will be put on the defensive. He will see it as you not appreciating him and he will act even more distant. Also, if he feels like your blaming or attacking him, it will block him from being the great boyfriend that he can be. When you’re in a good place, you will be better able to speak with integrity and compassion. This usually will awaken this value system in others and they will be more likely to give you what you want. We all have egos to protect. When you criticize harshly, rarely does it inspire someone to be better. It just puts them on the defensive and makes them point out your faults.

The good news is we all have an innate desire to be out best selves. When you can come from a place of confidence, understanding, and just the right amount of compassion, you will inspire the other person to bring their best self to the table, the side that wants to do good and reach their potential. Becoming aware of your own sensitivities can show you that you can give the gift of putting someone else in the best place.

What does this look like in relationships?

It comes down to recognizing and appreciating the other person for who they are and not placing demands on them that stem from your own insecurities. It entails being in a good place emotionally because when you bring your best to a relationship, most relationship problems solve themselves. The worst thing you can do when you’re unhappy in your relationship is blame the other person for making you feel a certain way. It may be the easier option, but it certainly isn’t the most effective.

If there are problems, the best thing you can do is look within yourself and see how you can be better, both in the relationship and overall. If you’re bringing your best to the table and problems persist, then it might be time to assess whether this is a relationship you want to continue.

Again, I’m not saying your boyfriend or husband should sit back while you do all the work. The fact is, you’re reading his article, not him. That means the power lies with you. (And btw, some of my male friends also runs a relationship business for men, so the idea that men don’t care about working on relationships is just a myth).

Anyway, I hope this blog clarified some point of contention for you.


” I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstances but by our disposition.”

-Martha Washington